The other side of International Women's Day

It's actually awful that in today's tech enabled world we need to celebrate any type of this day so called International Women's day. But being celebrated world wide interprets that there would have been huge gender biasedness in the minds of the people. It's not about only women but all genders that need to be recognized by mere celebration of on some one day in the year. This women's day I would request all the opposite gender folks to have such open minds who can at least try to understand a few women around them. I don't find it to be major task. The only thing needed is listening to them while they are speaking and not hearing. Hearing and listening are two different things. Just listen to them what they are trying to tell you. They don't demand major, just some efforts of listening and that's all which can work for them. These women around may be your wives, daughters, friends, sisters, sister in laws or daughter in laws. Please be humble to them because you never know and never tried to follow what their heart and brain is telling. Otherwise a women is just a name with identity of her husband's name and a name of their mental health.

A #MeToo Affair

Social Media is such a powerful tool which gives the powerless an immense power to mold it to his/her benefit accordingly. It seems as if people are carrying an FIR system with them all the time. You just vent out all your harrowing experience and click 'submit'. The information spreads like wildfire getting instant 'Likes' and 'Share'. And if the victim is a woman, then the entire hardcore feminist group will blindly support the victim. I wonder did they ever bother to hear the other side of the story. The issue is extrapolated to such a level that the other person loses his ground and even if he/she tries to put forward his/her point, it is stashed in the backyard. Today I am going to share my personal opinion about the #MeToo series of allegations by our pretty ladies of #Bollywood on producers, directors and co-actors. The #MeToo fire was started by Tanushree Dutta who accused Nana Patekar of 'lurking' around on the sets of 'Horn Ok Please' some 10 years ago. Soon after Tanushree Dutta leaves the set and locks herself in her vanity van and then drives in her car. At that moment, a mob of around 50 people mainly from Media and some other group (which is yet to be ascertained) surrounded her car. Later police had to intervene and clear the way for her car. Now there are couple of questions which seek attention.

Here is a video clip of the incident by #IndiaToday.

https://www.indiatoday.in/programme/the-people-s-court/video/tanushree-dutta-nana-patekar-controversy-here-s-what-eyewitness-janice-sequeira-saw-1354313-2018-10-02

1. With the complete video footage available, why is it difficult to find out if Nana Patekar touched Tanushree Dutta with a wrong intention?

2. Why after 10 years, Tanushree Dutta has suddenly found courage to speak up?

3. Who were the people that created ruckus when Tanushree is in her car?

4. We have heard only one side of the story. We haven't heard anything from Nana Patakar yet? Why are we judging to conclusion?

5. What is the definition of sexual harassment? Is there a limit defined by law?

In the next few days the #MeToo movement finds our pretty ladies waking up from deep slumber and joining the sheepish ‘मैं मैं भेड़चाल’. Be it Alok Nath, Sajid Khan, Variamuthu, Sham Kaushal are just a few names. The list is unending and till now we hear a new name popping up. Surprisingly, all incidents had happened as old as 2 decades ago. That means women are more empowered to speak up today. Should we thank the present #Modi government for giving more power to women to speak up? Or can we say women are more safe in #NDA's tenure than in #UPA's tenure? To me, it seems a ‘Quid Pro Quo’ movement. What happened back then was acceptable because a career was at stake and now to steal the show, this #MeToo is proving handy.

As far as my personal opinion is concerned, it is difficult to say now and even after couple of months from now about who’s the real accused and who's the victim but one thing is sure that this #MeToo will definitely become a cause of breakdown of someone not guilty very soon. I pray no victim shall use this power for his/her selfish motives. In a country where we still don’t know who killed #Aarushi and #Jessica, how can you rather rely on the half baked story? The reel life actors get so much influenced by their unreal life that they don’t realize the right and wrong of their action. All they care about is getting back to limelight by pushing others behind.

 It’s high time our judiciary prepares a guideline on sexual harassment or physical abuse and a special cell to deal with such cases in this regard. Using hashtag #MeToo to report the story makes it look more scandalous and majority of the cases the sympathy of the masses is with women.

P.S. The intention is the post is not to hurt feminist brigade. I have shared an honest opinion. Do share your opinion about the #MeToo affair.