Who's Fault?

Place: Jammu

Where in Jammu: Just outside my house

Date: 6th Nov 2009

Incident: Just outside my house there is a tri-junction . So it becomes mandatory to blow HORN but unfortunately people in India are in such a hurry that they don't care. Not only Horn is necessary one should slow down a bit at curves. Due to these mistakes or rather i would say 'Blunders' the screeching sound is very common. My dad always warns me to blow horn and pass slowly till the lane is over. But today i happened to witness one such road accident. As usually i woke up at 12 Noon and was about to take a bath when i heard screeching sound- A scooter and a auto rickshaw has collided. The owner of scooter held that poor autowaala and was asking 1000 bugs from him and that autowaala was almost in tears( God help the poor masses). I interfered and asked that scooter waala to first leave his shirt and talk sensibly or approach a *thulaa for *maandawli. That guy was adamant and kept repeating 1000, 1000, 1000....Then i inspected the crime scene and visualised how the accident might have happened. Actually both were at fault though Autowaala was a bit rash. But the matter of fact is that no one had got any injuries and their vehicles were also intact - No damage. All of us tried convincing the guy to leave the poor guy but he was stone stuck at his position. Later i told the autowaala to get a thulaa and get the matter resolved. The scooter waala left the poor guy and picked his scooter and started leaving crying foul over the matter. May be he got scared by the call of thulaa or whatever but the matter finished.

Don't know who's at fault but one should remember accidents happen when both parties are at fault. Fight is not the solution. For me that scooter waala becomes a loser because everyone there was supporting poor guy!!! One statement of the scooter guy infuriated me as he said that you are a "Hindu" and me too. There i decided to not let him exploit the poor fellow anymore. From where the issue of Hindu or Muslim came? I am still puzzled.....

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For the Last couple of days such incidents are happening with me. Sometimes i get stuck in traffic and help resolve the traffic or at other times get myself involved in brawl with neighbours over garbage issue. Once i asked one aunty as not to throw garbage on road instead throw it in dustbin. But the lady didn't admit her mistake and finally i had to finish the talk. How people are so adamant? Why people can't say sorry? Does sorry make them small? I can't understand......if you please help me answer this............

Fatwa Against "Vande Mataram"

India has become a land of controversies and every day we come to know about something new, and this time a newer controversy is before us all. Some Muslim clerics( called Dharma ke Rakshak. Who gave then the right to decide what is right and wrong? Don't they have any work to do at their home?) in Deoband passed a fatwa against singing of Vande Mataram.

Vande Mataram means bowing before thee and for muslims bending before any other (not even your parents) than Allah is considered against their policy of MONOTHEISM. What i don't understand is this:

Who has written Quran?

Who told them not to bend before any other except Allah?

What will happen if they do such acts?

Who are these bunch of people carrying out the FATWA? If they don't want then ok, why are they making it compulsory for every Muslim. If someone choses not to say VM then he is free to do but going public with such disclosure is not at all justfiable.

Such acts like this one or Ram mandir issue are very sensitive issues and one should think about the consequences before going public................Open to all of you now!!!!!

The Worst Fear!!!

Finally i gathered enough courage to write one more post. Actually there are a lot many ideas in my mind these days but many of the ideas come and pass by because of my Day-Dreaming behavior or may be i am too lazy :P. Today i decided to do away with CAT ki padai and decided to put my thoughts into words. To start with let me ask you one question- Who do you fear most or What causes anxiety in you? For some it may be the fear of failure or dark or being robbed. There may be numerous answers but for me the worst fear is losing someone i love and care. "Origin of Suffering is Attachment" is one such Truth of life written by Swami Vivekananda. Attachment to anything be it Living(Human or Animal) or Nirjeev Vastu causes pain and suffering to the person to whom we love. Everytime this thought happens to cross my mind i get depressed but it's the cycle of nature (or Jeevan-Mrityu) that one who comes on this Earth has to depart one day. So why not just enjoy and stop fighting. Will there be love and peace on this Earth some day? I don't know nor you know it but only thing i know is that let's create a chain of happiness :P.

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Starting Nov 1 Prepaid Sim cards are going to be banned all across J&K and NE. I am screwed now ;(. 3 days back i got my mobile number updated in my ICICI A/C and Demat account and everywhere possible. Now either i have to update new number or convert my older one to postpaid. And truly saying i hate doing these type of work which involves verification. I have an interesting post regarding this which i will be coming very soon......

"Shubh Deepawali!!!"

Jai Laxmi Mata!!! Deepa-Wali is the most popular festival of Hindu's celebrated all across Bharat. It is written in Ramayana( Great Epic of Hindu's ) by Valmiki that this day Lord Rama returned from 14 years exile. So from that day onwards people celebrate this day as Lord Rama's home coming. I wonder many a times is this a scientific confirmation or just that we heard from our ancestors as to celebrate Deepawali, we are doing it. Forget it, we can't argue on this and their are certain things that need to be accepted as they are. This day as usual i got up at 12 in the morning :P and listened to my favourite CD of Nusrat Ali Baba. Today i made roti's for me and after self-made breakfast i went out to relative's home like a marketing guy selling soap and powder. This Deepawali was special for me as for the first time i decided to do away with crackers and have a smoke-free deepawali. I used to remember the times when at Deepawali we used to wear Blazers. But now the climate has changed a lot and at this time there is no signs of cold although nights have become slightly colder. We need to think, not only think but work out something for the environment to save it from further destruction. If every citizen contributes 0.00001% then whole of this world can help build this planet a Greener Zone to live in. Other changes that i noticed this time: Earlier we used to have a lot of sweets but now people prefer to purchase juice, biscuits, gift items and dry fruit. Now Deepawali has turned into Brand Deepawali. On the whole our festivals like Holi, Deepawali, navratra, ganesh immersion etc are all unfriendly with our environment. They cause harm to nature in one way or the other. But faith and belief of people is so strong that they don't see any defects in it. Finally at 12:40 A.M i am dead tired and will reach for my bed as soon as i click "Publish Post".

P.S : Someone said," If you want to change the world, then you are the one who will start first and the world will follow suit." Enjoy and have a safe and prosperous Deepawali!!!!

Dreams of Fire!!!

What is a Dream? For me Dream is a world of your own thoughts that is built in your mind whether conciously or unconciously. Dreams can give you joy, happiness while it can haunt you sometimes. You not only dream during sleep but during day also and dreaming during day is called DAY-DREAMING. I am a victim of day dreaming since the day i become aware of my surroundings. And today i will share some of my day dreaming experiences both horrible and joyful. When i was studying in my lower classes(class 6th and above as far as i remember) i used to get lost in the world of my own. I was a very very shy guy during my school and a bit of( or i must say a lot of) chutiya type guy. I was innocent and very moderate thinking village guy. I used to talk less in class and was always deeply engrossed into my thoughts in the class. Once my teacher asked me to read and i stood up with a blank face as i was not attentive as usual. I used to think about going back home early as i don't like studying at school. I must admit i was and am a total homesick. Then used to imagine myself doing all the questions on board and imagining myself as the topper of school. With the influence of internet my thoughts grew somewhat vulgar. I am sorry to say this but i began imagining my teachers, girls of my class. Now at times i am so engrossed in my dreams that i have fumbled couple of times. In my class 12th i was going for tution and i forgot to deboard at my destination and reached the last stop. At other times i forgot to collect return money from shopkeepers. Recently i went to bank to deposit some money when i found that i had miscalculated Rs 500*50 as Rs 50000 and the teller brought my mistake to notice. There are lots and lots of accidents happening with me everyday.

Being shy i neither have any GF or any girl friend. During my college also i rarely talked with girls and prefer to sstay away from them. Out of all girls i don't know the reason why it is so??? I am not able to forget Megna. She visits my dreams very frequently till now and i get excited when someone mentions her name or talks about her. Don't take it otherwise because it not what all of you are thinking. She reminds me of Perizaad Zorabian. I think it's enough now and i must change the course of blog :P

Apart from Day-Dreaming i have another unique problem of SELF-TALK. I talk to my own self whenever alone and that too loudly. You may think that i am mad or insane but i think my best friend is my own self. Talking to myself makes me feel light and take any burden off from me at times. Before i sign off for now i have a special story for you........

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Tarun VS BSNL

There is an unending tussle going on between tarun and bsnl for last two or more months. He's got broadband connection after tough fight with BSNL officials but now his connection isn't working. Don't worry Tarun, let me become JTO i will give you renumeration of 5 years of free usage. :P. May GOD give Tarun all strength and power to win this battle over BSNL........

Self Realization

Life of a human being is like a vast ocean and we humans are sailboats moving in the vast ocean aimlessly and try to find it's way to the shore. They don't have any Captain and the motion of ship depends completely on direction of wind. Just like sailboats we humans tend to live throughout our lives drifting away into this vast ocean of life with the aim of getting all the luxuries in life(Money is such a thing the more we go for it, the more desire it creates in us) someday and finally lead a sound and peaceful life at the end. But we never get that peace ever in life and when we get it we are too old to enjoy them. We never reach the destination we set before going on such a expedition. Just look back at your past till now and recall have you ever did anything out of your conscience or you simply did it because it was your parents wish to see you become doctors and engineers? If yes, then i salute your decision and may you succeed in life. But most of us live our life for the sake of others. We never ever live for us. Many of us take science as their subject in 10+2 when they want to go for arts or commerce. Then against their will they are forced to become engineers and finally they end up in some big Multi National Fish with big bucks into your hands every month. These big fishes don't have any emotional attachment with it's employees at all. At the end of the day all they want is getting the project done on time for some gora. Then you get married after sometime and now the real problem starts creeping into your life. Now you are stuck!!! You can't even think of leaving job because at least 2 persons are involved now. Then children and their responsibility of studies, their marriage and so on.......When you realize now everything has settled you are already in a stage of Ram Naam. Still their are persons who don't want to become captain less sailboats and be the driver of their own ship row their ship against all odds and reach his exact destination. For them Money is not the baseline of everything but self realization is the ultimate goal which gives them happiness and satisfaction. These are two factors for which everyone of us strive through this competitive world. You must be surprised why i am talking philosophical when my last 2 or 3 blogs were full of humour. Normally i am not a philosopher by profession but today i just came upon this very idea to share with you all. Actually i realised (after getting my re-joining on 19th Dec), i am a part of the group who travel on ship without a captain drifting away with the wind. What i thought would be easy for me to work independently seems not viable right now as odds are against me. I salute those who chose to stand different from the crowd, i salute their effort and hope for their success and contentment in whatever they do....I wish i could one day have the power to overcome my fear and drive my own ship my own way........Life is Complex like a jalebi. Their are many twist and turns which you come to know gradually!!!!!

Addictive Soaps

Thinking of Lux, Lifebuoy!!! I am not talking of the soap you rub on your genitals everyday but i am talking of the daily soaps that your mother or other female members watch everyday on the idiot box. I have seen ladies crying over Mihir's death and dicussing latest episode on some body's funeral. From Hum Log in 1980s to K Serials in 2005, i think their is a degradation in the content. These soaps have transformed themselves from time to time and diversified as well. I don't know how the fuck(sorry for using *DUCK word) Ekta kapoor is getting high TRP's for showing non-sense for over 4 or 5 years. I wonder how one can watch same thing repeatedly for 5 years. I just watched one of her show for one week and what i could make out is that it portrays women as the Master devil and men as a mere servant. I swear to God that i laughed out of my heart at their acting also. How can a person sleep with heavy make-up and jewellery? And when you wake up are your hair neatly combed or you need to dress up? The Supreme Court should ban such channels for publiticising polyandry. In Kyunki Saas Bhi Kabhi Bahu thi, I wonder whether Tulsi can confidently say who is her Husband and how many children she had??? After watching all such non-sense we call Tulsi and Parvati (Kahani Ghar Ghar ki ) the Ideal Bahu. It's all Bullshit!!! If such women are ideal bahu then i am worried what will be future of india, a land of Great pious ladies of our past such as Sita, Meera, etc. This is one aspect of Daily soap. Now they have diversified into reality shows. Some reality shows are constructive because they give us a platform to showcase our talent. But some programs like Iss Jungle se mujhe bachao, MTV Roadies are doing a wrong way of earning TRPs and money. One day i was watching iss jungle se mujhe bachao. Saala the girls were bathing in bikini and two peice showing all they possess. The reality shows provide the celebrities a stage for publicity and more cash for the owner. I wonder if they can bathe in bikini in front of the camera then what they did behind the camera???WOW!!! I should i have a spy camera for this :P How can a person watch such realty shows with parents??? And the language they use when they fight among themselves. Though these channels censor it but what impact can it be on our younger generation. Ok fine, i don't have problem with foul language but what about Nanga naach shown live on TV. And how can you forget MTV Roadies and Splitsvilla. They should get No. 1 rating in Highly adult shows. I feel good and support them fully when the VHP and RSS people oppose such acts. Also sometimes i feel that Muslims who have made Veil (Burka) compulsory for women is must for them in this world of nudity.

Now some good about daily soaps. Not every soap is bad, some are good to watch. Like these days Colors shows various soaps and each one is superb and i am addicted to it. Every soap is based on some type of social obligation. I just want to say that watch such channels which give some message and from which you can gain something positive. Make use of the idiot box in a positive way as far as possible and spread good around you. Stay Happy and Cheerful!!!!!